Sugar and spice, and everything nice may not be what she’s made of after all. But that’s OK; or at least it should be. As parents, it’s natural for us to want to raise our kids in the traditional mold, but not every kid is going to fit that mold. The sooner you’re aware of whether this applies to your child, the easier it will be for you to adjust. So let’s look at ten signs that your daughter is a tomboy.
- If you notice that her Barbie Doll is wearing grease paint and camouflage clothing, and has ken in a headlock, that’s a fairly good indication that she may be prefer playing “boy” games.
- A girl who grows up to be a so-called tomboy usually gravitates toward boys activities as a toddler. She’ll likely have a boisterous personality, and show more interest in toy trucks or a ball than in dolls.
- She may come home from school one day when she’s older, toting a football helmet instead of cheerleader pom-poms. A keen interest in sports is common for a “tough girl”.
- If your attempts at getting her to play with dolls in spite of her obvious predilection for more boyish pursuits, don’t be surprised if her doll transforms into Xena: Warrior Princess, or for that matter, Rambo.
- It isn’t uncommon for a tomboy to spend a lot of time roughhousing with other boys, especially if she’s got male siblings, and will frequently display the associated badges of honor: bruises, cuts and scrapes.
- On dress-up occasions, you can usually anticipate that your little princess won’t stay looking all dolled up for very long. She may not enjoy the dress-up aspects of girlhood at all, in fact. Given a choice, she’ll usually go for rough-and-tumble wear over dresses and bows.
- Her entertainment choices may not be so feminine either. Favorite movies, TV shows, books, comic books, even role models are very apt to be those you’d associate with boys.
- Don’t be alarmed – or disappointed, or discouraging – if your daughter expresses a desire to pursue a career in a traditionally male-oriented occupation. It may be a passing phase, but it may also be how she’s wired, and deserves your support.
- Because of the male-dominated society in which we live, a tomboy daughter’s confident – and at times aggressive – demeanor will seem unsightly at times. Remember, however, that as she grows to be a woman, this self-assuredness is by and large going to be an asset in adulthood.
- A tomboy will in many cases not make friends with many other girls. Likewise, she may not be altogether interested in doing so. Children grow through identity crises, peer pressures, cliques, etc. regardless of their interests. It’s not just a tomboy thing. Show your support and pride in the young person that she is, and trust in the confident woman she will grow up to become.
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